Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Warmer days have got us on the move.



Spring has sprung... and then unsprung, and then sprung again here in Utah!! But the Queen and I have been lucky the last few weeks to sneak in our FAVORITE activity on some of the warmer days!! We LOOOOOVE our walks!! It's no secret that I exist in a 5-7 block radius!! My Be More Collection office is currently 3 blocks from our home (with the move to our new HQ it will be 3.5). My current salon is only ONE block from where we are living & my healthy habit of Sodalicious is about 4 blocks away! So needless to say we do a LOT of walking!!

We just recently started using the Evenflo Pivot Travel Stroller & mommas, this thing is the business!! I wish we would have gotten it earlier because it has so many cool features!! The Queen is a full blown toddler now, and she insists on having both a sippy and snacks on walks, #diva (wonder where she gets it). The Evenflo Pivot has a detachable snack tray perfect for her lil baby hands to reach for snacks!

The seat transforms from a bassinet all the way to sitting up toddler seat, and the car seat can also be attached to the stroller!! WHERE WAS THIS FOR THE NEWBORN DAYS?! Am I right?

Alas, we are enjoying it's functionality, durability and lightweight frame & I am stoked for warmer days so I can really see what this baby (the stroller, not the actual baby) can do!! Thank you to Evenflo for kindly sponsoring this post. And giving us the opportunity to see what Evenflo is all about! We are converted & can't wait to try other Evenflo products like this car seat we just got for outings with the babysitter! 












 All opinions are 100% honest & completely my own.

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Friday, February 10, 2017

Preeeeeeach

Take a walk down memory lane with me will you.... it's the Fall of 2014, I was just hired as a marketing assistant for a UT local clothing brand after being a freelance stylist and image consultant. I wanted experience, I wanted to work for a REAL company, I wanted a steady pay check.

Like most jobs, the first few months were full of the fun stuff, I was the assistant to the Marketing Director, so my job was THE FUN stuff! On set styling, pinning to Pinterest, email campaigns, instagraming, you know... the fun stuff! Fast forward a few months. Personal life: FINALLY launched my own clothing collection & passion project, Be More Collection. Found out I was pregnant (SURPRISE everyone, myself included)!! Work life: internal changes & restructuring. Promotion to Marketing Manager (aka salaried job with consistency & security).

My clothing collection has a HUGE passion behind it. That passion, is a need and a want to help others cultivate their creativity & promote a self sustaining life through their talents. That was the foundation it started on, and that is the foundation we continue to live on. If it doesn't cultivate creativity and passion, we ain't about it.

Back to my "Big Girl Job." As I mentioned, I was pregnant. Did I mention I was also working as a hairstylist 12-15 hours a week, on top of my 9-5 "Big Girl Job"? Oh, and "running" my own online clothing collection on top of that? What can I say, I'm a workaholic.

While working at this big girl job I was able to expand my network and meet some incredibly talented people. I was able to cultivate relationships with these people & offer unsolicited advice, as I often do (if we have every had a hair party, you've been "blessed" with my soap box). I was telling these babes to go after their dreams no matter the cost. I was trying to invoke the potential I saw in these individuals & push them toward their path of greatness! Here I was sitting behind a desk 9-5 marketing for a company I was not fully invested in, preaching passion and greatness, while I was hiding behind my own. Wah, wah, wah.

As my pregnancy progressed I had some decisions to make. I knew I would take a maternity leave, I also knew I wanted to work after having my baby (cue workaholic tendencies). I also knew I had A BABY to take care of, and I, with my then circumstances, was not in a position to stay home for long. Decisions, decisions.

After a mind numbing day of "working for the man" I knew I couldn't preach with out my practice any longer. I sat down, crunched all of the numbers I could find, I consulted with my baby's dad, and decided it was time to PRACTICE WHAT I WAS PREACHING.

I didn't know how I was going to do it, all I knew is I was going to do it. I was going to create a self sustaining life through my talents. I was going to be the mission statement of my own passion project. I was going to be an example to the people I was encouraging. So, 3 weeks before I had my baby girl, I quit my "Big Girl Job" and went full force freelance & hairstyling again. 

15 months later (and a TON of hustle, like holy holy, the hustle is real) I am embarking on the most INSANE venture I ever have taken on. I am taking a HUGE leap of faith on this new project, I've made my plan, I've crunched all of the numbers and I am practicing what I am preaching (bout time, am I right?!)! I am diving in head first, and I want you to dive in with me.

If you're ready to life your life, I want to help you to stop waiting for the right time, and to create the right time! Slide into my email (it sounds way better when you say DM's, but like, we will take what we have), tell me your dreams, tell me your passions and let me preach to you & let me help show you the goodness & potential you have and cultivate the talents you posses.


Can't wait to Be More with you. {bemorecollection@gmail.com}



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Saturday, February 4, 2017

Politics shmolitics

Uh oh.... opening up a can of worms here. I have chosen to stay quiet about my political views for a while now.... during campaigning, during the election, after the election..and now, I am ready to come clean about my views.

Am I a republican? Am I a democrat? It's really none of your business. Am I right? So what DO I believe??

I believe in equal rights, I believe in the law & I believe in making today our best day and tomorrow better than yesterday was. While I won't come out and say how I feel about our current political state in this country, I can say this. We are all children of a God. I believe in a higher power, whatever you believe, YOU BELIEVE IT, hold on to it & let it drive you to do good. I chose not to march for women recently, and spend that day with my beautiful child being a mother, cultivating love and teaching acceptance and empowerment to my young daughter. I am choosing not to walk today. Does that mean I don't want change? Does that mean I don't have love and hope for the refugees and their current struggle? I'll let you be the judge and I will stand by what I believe.

I believe that change starts with us, I believe the children are our future.. that sounds familiar doesn't it? To be frank, I do not care what or who you believe in. If you are spreading goodness by walking the streets (peacefully) with signs, or sitting at home raising children, or blogging about political awareness. YOU DO YOU. I believe in tolerance, love and freedom for all people. Race, gender, rich & poor. We all deserve a voice, we all deserve love and acceptance. We all as HUMAN BEINGS deserve goodness. So lets all get the hell off of the internet hiding behind our computers ruining friendships, and spread some freaking love already why don't we? If you feel oppressed by your current situation, I truly am sorry. I wish you love and acceptance, I pray for it for you.

If you want to fight (peacefully) for the equality and acceptance you or others deserve, you fight.

But know that your fight will look different than mine. We all have different struggles, different views, different trials, different talents and goals. And that, my friends is what makes this world go round. May we all strive to look for the good in the bad, fight for those who do not feel they can fight for themselves. And remember we are all fighting our own battles no matter our race, color, status and nationality. And YOUR FIGHT LOOKS DIFFERENT THAN ANOTHER'S FIGHT.

Last, but certainly not least, God's got us covered, and idk about all of you, but I am going to be spending my time gathering up some food storage, loving and teaching my baby how to be a good human. If we've read the good book, we all can see the signs, we all have read the ending. God lives and loves us all, as imperfect as we may all be. Lets give a little more love, a little more time to things that matter & BE THE CHANGE WE WANT TO SEE.




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Friday, December 2, 2016

Your Face Will Thank You

Hello my people!!! Hope you're all surviving the fact that it's officially winter..... I'm dealing as well as I can! My skin is usually trippin hard core right about now this time of year, but not this time!! Check out why in my video below!! Your face will thank you!!



Ashley is teaming up with me today to give away these amazing Acute Care Strips that are baaaasically like Botox (which is the freaking best). SO head over to insta & enter to win!! 

Ashley Rowan: Rodan & Fields Distributor


801-687-3531
Ashro7311@gmail.com




ICYMI I have added a Beauty Collection to the Be More Collection!! I am soooo excited to start focusing on this passion of mine again, Tara is back everyone!! I am doing a super fun "A few of my favorite things" giveaways over on my instagram for the launch of this new brand!! I will be announcing the winners at our Be More Beauty Launch Party next Wednesday December 7th in Provo!! We will be having a Sun Kissed, Lips & Sip event! Check out the Facebook event & RSVP now to reserve your treatment!! We will be doing discounted Spray Tans, Gel Manicures, Free Styling & playing with makeup & having awesome GIVEAWAYS!! See you there!!

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Be More, Boomr & Bri Ray

Be More, Boomr App & Bri Ray (say that 3 times fast)!!

Back in October Be More teamed up with Boomr App & Survive Designs for a Breast Cancer Research event & I had the pleasure of meeting The Bri Ray & hearing her perform live for the first time! Being very immersed in the music world here in Provo, as all of my friends are talented musicians I thought to myself, holy cow, this girl has got it where did she come from?! Bri has been singing since she was 8 & started performing shortly after that! Be More, as many of you know, is my clothing collection that is scholarship based & gives back to women who are pursuing a creative career. We want to empower women to pursue careers based off of their talents & we LOVE that Bri is doing JUST THAT! Bri is getting ready to drop a single (this week) & will be debuting it LIVE at Velour Music Gallery in Provo, Ut on Saturday Nov 26th! She will be headlining the show and will be preceded by other female artists including Be More's first sponsored artist, Ashley Hess. The night will be jam packed with some serious Girl Power!

I was able to chat a little bit about Bri's upcoming single with the girl herself and get the inside scoop! "Never There" is taken from some of her personal experience & is about a bad relationship where feelings were make believe and the love she thought she was sharing was.. well, never there! We've all been there girl, we've all been there! It's musical roots definitely give you the pop soul feel! With her inspiration coming from powerhouse voices like Adele & Sam Smith & soulful runs like Tori Kelly & Alicia Keys she will be leaving us with all of the feels!! If you happened to watch the last season of American Idol, she may already be a familiar face! We talked a bit about her experience there & she shared that appreciated her experience and has seen how it has refined her as an artist! If there is one thing she stands by, it is her individuality & her determination to always be true to herself, her music & her beliefs. Preach girl!!

Along with dropping her single Wednesday she will be sharing a music video to accompany it! Bri filmed her video with the Boomr App creative team & has been working closely with their marketing team to share her music with the world! Boomr App is an up and coming social media app that will be making it's own debut before 2016 ends, so watch for more exciting things with them!!

Bri & I also got to play dress up & snapped some pics showcasing new pieces from Be More Clothing Collection! Check those out below!!










Make sure you check out Bri Ray & buy her single "Never There" Wednesday!! And if you're local come hang with me and the Queen at her show Saturday Nov 26th at Velour! Watch out world Bri Ray is here & she is about to take over!

Find Bri Ray

Photos: Ashley Rae 


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Sunday, October 23, 2016

Zippide do da


This week has been something else! It feels like an eternity since I was on vacation in San Diego visting family & supporting my girlfriend at the We Society Event! I have had a complete change of vision and new out look on so many things after leaving "real life" for a few days! I am working on something new and i am nervous to share it with you all, but also everything I learned over my vaca is making it just a liiiiitle easier to put it out there! Something I will explain when the time is right! Anyway, like i said, this week was crazy. So many opportunities have been open to me recently and I have been able to find some resolve in my personal life and damn it feels good to be me again! I have been working on the Be More brand like whooooooa lately & I hired an assistant (in addition to my intern_ to turn up the heat! We have some deals going to Jane.com this week & this top is one of them! I am a sucker for stripe tops, like, I have a problem. But I mean, I need them all. You get it. I know you do! Sneak on over to Jane and grab one of these tops, this is the White with Black striped one! It comes in 3 colors, with two black and white stripe options, and yes, they are different. swears. Okay well off to finish another FUN project! Happy Monday! xoxox







tara: top: be more collection for jane.com // neck scarf: be more collection // pants: target // shoes: musse & cloud
q: top: h&m sold out  // shorts: target (diy cut offs) // sneakers: c/o famous footwear // bow: everly avenue

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Sunday, October 2, 2016

I can see clearly now


I can see clearly now. Okay so the title of this post can be a little deceiving. Am I meaning literally, or figuratively? Well, both! I've attached some cutie little pictures of my new glasses from glassesshop.com which I love love love. But thats not really why I am here. I am here because I've been promising my side of the story for far far far too long. 

Where do I begin? In an effort to not place blame or throw anyone under any buses (Regina George went through that for us) for anything they've said or done I will do my best to keep this as positive and constructive as I can. With that said, why am I here? I am here to share my hurt & my struggle to hopefully help someone who may be struggling with something similar. I am here to share how I turned my situation into an opportunity for growth. 

If you have followed my social media for a while you will know that I was in an on again off again relationship with my baby's dad for a long long time... 3.5 years, but who's really counting? oh me, that's who. We ended our relationship briefly after I gave birth to our perfect little baby! He initiated the end of our relationship because he felt we deserved more than what we had together. That was insane amounts of hard for me to hear, I am the kind of girl who will stay in something & stick it out no matter how hard it may be. And I will give it my all to a fault. Was he right that we had run our course? He was, and I knew then and there when things were ending that it was what needed to happen. That didn't make it any easier, especially as I was stepping into the role of motherhood for the first time. And i was TERRIFIED to do it alone. This new role seemed quite impossible to figure out without the constant support and encouragement of someone who was, in my naive opinion, supposed to be there by my side no matter how hard things were. I will not discredit my baby's dad for his efforts, he did what he felt was his best. Unfortunately, to be frank, his best wasn't good enough for me. This is probably what the main catalyst of our ending our life together was, I always needed more than I was given & I felt that translated in my need as a mother as well. 

Months passed & we began getting into a co-parenting groove while still living together (we both agreed that being with our Q for the day to day was important for her and for us to continue to build our relationship with her in her infant state). Just as I felt things were in a smooth easy groove there it was, the truth I had known for a very very long time smacking me right in the face via text. While my baby's dad & I were not together, there was a sense of family that I felt was there as we shared our lives together. Things that were agreed upon when we ended things, yet decided to continue to live together, seemed logical & easy for me to keep on my end. Unfortunately as hard as you try to keep your "family" intact things change, people change and they move on and situations change. 

When you have an idea of what your life is supposed to look like and someone else comes into your world to change that idea & to change it's course, it can seem like THE worst thing that could ever happen to you. Losing "MY family," having it break apart in a way that I did not expect and with factors that seemed almost impossible to forgive seemed like something I could not get over. Like ever. I was mad, okay, I was irate. I felt betrayed, I felt stupid, but mostly I was worried. I was worried that my baby wasn't going to have a functioning family. I let that tear me apart for a very very long time. I was sad that I lost my person. I was hurt & pissed at myself for trusting people in my life to hold up their end of our friendship. I talked, and I talked a lot. I shared my frustrations of my situation with anyone who would hear it. I took my feelings to the internet. I said terrible mean things. I cried, a lot. I put blame where it was not intended. I worked a lot. I stopped eating. Yep, I was so upset I was physically ill & could not stomach much of anything. Months of back and forth with this mess, that I helped perpetuate, tore me apart. It continued to tear my now non functioning family apart. I lost so much more than this family I wanted so badly. I lost my life. This thing consumed me, it changed me. While I was in the thick of it I became someone I never even knew I could be. I always did my best to take responsibility for my wrong doings, for the things I said and for the people I often purposefully hurt. I figured if I would hurt anyone involved should get to feel what I felt. I realize now how selfish I was. 

After the dust settled, and we all took a step back and took the space we needed, and we all made efforts in healing, things became so clear. At least for me. Sometimes you need to go through the fire of hell and get burned (so many damn times) to become refined. I realize now how miserable I let myself be. I let myself be this miserable by holding on to something that wasn't real. I had this idea of what a family should be. I was so hard on myself for not being able to give my baby a functioning family with a loving mom & dad. But as hard & different as it is, we are a family. Love in this family is not shared by a mom and a dad. Instead all the love we've got is channeled to that perfect baby we share. 

I said this changed me, and boy, it did. I went from someone who I thought was strong enough to face anything, to someone I never wanted to be, and now I am someone I can be proud of again. So how in the literal hell did I do it?? Honestly, I don't even know, I just did. I applied a few of the following things to my situation and found my way out.

Strength
 You are stronger than you think you are. You will be faced with things you never imagined, things you do not think you can face & survive. Your struggles are preparing you for even harder times. The thing you consider the hardest to face will most likely not be the hardest thing you will endure. All of our struggles are preparing us to make it through harder things. You are stronger than you know, do not let the person you are become a person you don't want to be. Do not let your struggles define you.

Patience
 Be patient with yourself, you are doing your best. Even if your best feels like your worst give yourself credit, and give yourself time, healing sometimes comes slowly. DO not rush your progress. Take it one step at a time. 

Be Honest
Be honest with yourself. What do you want? why do you want it? is this worth it? and is this ultimately what you want your life to be? Sometimes we know the truth but are too afraid to admit it, even to ourselves. Ask yourself these questions in whatever situation you are currently in & BE HONEST with yourself.

Silence
 Silence is golden they say, idk who they are but they are on to something. Sometimes keeping the hurt and anger you have to yourself is the hardest thing you can do. Find someone you can trust and confide in. Talking your mouth off will not help your situation (I'm living proof), it may help you feel justified (it did) and help you to get it out in the moment, but in the end talking, unless it is to the person who you feel said way about isn't constructive. If you don't have something nice to say, definitely don't say it on the internet. 

Forgiveness
 Forgiveness is hard, I am still working on this one. I have a different approach to this one than many would. There is a saying, "forgive & forget." Well I don't entirely agree with this statement. Forgiveness is important & it is mostly for your benefit, when you forgive someone who hurt you, you are able to let go of the hard and hurtful feelings you have. I do not think forgetting is necessary, under one condition, use the remembrance of what was done to you to NEVER let anyone, yourself included, hurt you in that way again. Use it as a tool to build more strength. 

Perspective
 Something I wish I would have adapted to this situation as it was unfolding is perspective. I was very caught up in how was affected, how I was treated, and did not choose to acknowledge that I wasn't the only one with a story. Taking on the perspective of someone who is involved in your struggle can help you gain clarity. Clarity of intention. There are 3 sides to every story, yours, theirs, and what actually happened. Keep that in mind. 

Freedom
 If you situation continues to hurt you and you feel there is no way out. Make a way out. We all have a choice, no one is forcing you to stay in your situation. No matter how involved you think you may be, you always always have a choice to move on. Get yourself out of the hurt that is around you. Do everything you can to move on from your situation. Get up and walk away. Whatever that means to you, know that you have the strength to move on.


Now what? Now I move on with my life, the way I should have so long ago. Now I will demand more of that I need and more of what I deserve from everyone in my life. I will continue to work hard to provide and support for my baby & I will do my very best to coparent in a positive way. All I want is for my baby to know her parents have a mutual respect each other, and that we love her so damn much and that's what I am striving for moving forward. I am stronger than I was before, I will continue to be strong, I will be an example of hard work and a strong confident woman so my baby will learn how to do the same. I will strive to be a peacemaker in my home & I will do my best to trust those who haven't earned it.

Mic Drop 





dress: cotton on // shoes: c/o famous footwear // glasses: c/o glasses shop  // backpack: forever 21 similar // choker: be more collection

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